Being a natural teacher, I sometimes struggle when I am wearing the “Dad” hat. When I spend time with my daughters, I see every moment as a teachable moment, every comment as an opportunity for socratic inquiry, every doodle as the first draft of a masterpiece. In many ways this has been great. My daughters, now 11 and 13, are curious, confident, creative, compassionate girls.
But from time to time, teacher-dad can be a bit overwhelming. My urge to guide and challenge them slams into their their need for self-direction and support. And because my wife and I have done such a good job raising them to be assertive and persistent, pressing the issue is a moot point.
My older daughter and I have both been exploring twitter this summer. I’ve been building my personal learning network while she’s been stalking her favorite authors. So when she came to me dissatisfied with the superficial reader-response questions that she was supposed to use for her summer reading assignment, I rattled off a few of my favorite alternatives. She rolled her eyes and I realized she wanted Dad-dad not teacher-dad.
“Why don’t you ask for help on twitter?” I suggested. She didn’t think anyone following her would be able to help, so I explained how hash tags work and told her to try #engchat.
She wrote:
What are some good reader response questions for a novel? #engchat
And three minutes later received this response from lisamonthie:
here is a site of novel questions http://bit.ly/7IfGZn #engchat
My daughter loved the questions and used them to complete her assignment without complaint. More importantly, she now has a new skill for taking control of her own learning. She found the guidance she needed and I was able to help her learn with out imposing.
The experience has left me inspired to explore more ways that learners can access and contribute to the expertise and kindness available through social networks.





